Friday today, and I went to see Colin this afternoon because I was just too worried about him. I phoned ahead, and the nurses said I could visit as long as I was diligent with the hand cleaning and sanitising in between, and wore a face mask to avoid spreading my germs to the patients. I am still not feeling great, although my throat is not sore.
Colin was so pleased to see me, and I knew that I had done the right thing. One of the most difficult things of this is not being able to be in contact with him all the time. He is not yet able to use his phone, and so we are out of contact unless I send a message via the nursing staff (which he really appreciates) but it is not the same. Even when he traveled for work (ir when I used to travel for work) we were in contact after work via skype or whatever. For the years before the accident, we use telegram or whatsapp, or even skype, to be in contact even throughout the day, and I am finding that I miss being “with” him all the time. yes, I know we need time apart, and time to do our own things, and we do; but I miss being able to just message him or get a message from him.
I probably should have stayed in bed for one more day, but I had to see Colin. He is doing ok, a bit tired again today, but I think he is ok. He was a bit nauseous, and he didn’t eat his dinner, but I think that is ok. He says he can’t really face three meals a day, even though the food is really good.
Today, he mentioned to me that the Social Worker and Physios mentioned that I need to start the process of home visit planning. It will take a long time to set everything up, but I need to start by taking photos and measurements of the doors and so on, so they can begin to tell me how and where to start. This has filled me with enormous joy. Colin did say, rather forlornly, that he suddenly realised that he won’t be coming home to use his PC, but will have a lot of staring to do. I want to see what I can do in the way of finding test software to see if we will be able to start setting up his PC with voice and eye commands, but that is something I am still researching.
I think it will be a lot to do – having to look after him without the safety net of the nurses, but I am up for the challenge.